From 3 near-death experiences to South African MMA champion in 26 months: The fall and rise of Ethienne Reynecke
Need an inspiring story to pick you up during the depressing lockdown? Look no further than Ethienne Reynecke, the ex-hooker who bounced back from nearly being dead on three occasions in 2018 to become a South African MMA amateur champion last March just a couple of weeks before his 38th birthday.
Reynecke is by no means the full shilling again yet. His speech can trail away when he’s tired after a busy day, his memory finding the exact word he wants to say can also let him down while his damaged hearing isn’t what he would like.
But after a horrible sequence of events where his spleen burst, a stroke caused a blood clot in his brain and then getting shot at in a shop robbery (he was also divorced around that time), he is certainly bouncing back with a vigour that should make people worried about their own particular difficulty feel more positive about life.
It was 2014 when Reynecke jacked in the rugby, his now ex-wife unwilling for him stay on at Pau following a European adventure that also included pitstops at Connacht and Saracens. The forward, who had featured for the Lions and Stormers in Super Rugby, as well as Griffons, Golden Lions, Western Province and Free State Cheetahs in the Currie Cup, then took up various forms of fighting and even toyed with the idea of becoming an MMA pro in 2016.
Ultimately, the universe didn’t have it in its plan for him to do that, yet here he is all these years later, becoming a national amateur lightweight champion despite multiple, harrowing life setbacks. To say he is chuffed would be an understatement. Then again, it has always been in is nature to fight adversity, whatever the odds. Even in the lockdown there has been no idleness, Reynecke launching a range of hand sanitiser to help South Africa more safely get through the Covid crisis that has changed the world.
Forty minutes Reynecke managed with RugbyPass over the phone from Johannesburg the other night, taking his time to tell his crazy story despite communication difficulties exacerbated by the time of day. “I do apologise,” he said at the outset. “The speech isn’t as good in the night. If you spoke to me in the morning it would be clearer. I’m tired as well as I did wrestling training.”
Regardless of 2018’s life-altering escapades, living in South Africa was never going to be a bed of roses as an ex-rugby professional. That status just doesn’t hold the same gravitas for opening doors that it perhaps holds in other countries. “It’s always a battle. Life after pro rugby is hard, it’s not easy,” he explained.
“Even though you might be well-educated – I did a chemistry and biochemistry degree in Johannesburg and a masters in law in London, in South Africa it’s different. In London if you have got an education and have played over ten years of pro rugby you can walk into a good job, but life is different in South Africa. You have to make something out of nothing. It’s like that. You just get on with it, focus on being healthy and try to get on with life.”
His characteristic chutzpah effectively saved his life following the 2018’s triple whammy: cataclysmic near-death experiences he has shrugged off rather than wallow in self-pity. “It’s getting a lot better,” he continued. “In terms of the health that is fine but it’s hard to explain to people the devastating impact that this has taken.
“There is a disability. I had to learn to read, to speak. Communication is everything. My speaking is improving but my hearing is a problem, understanding what people say. But it’s getting better. I started training again, wrestling, MMA, playing rugby in Bermuda. It helps straiten your life.
“2018 was hard. During my rugby career I never stayed a single night in a hospital. Normally if I got an operation you’d be out the same day. In 2018, I started with a month in ICU because my spleen burst. In between going to WWE (the performance centre in Orlando he attended with Todd Clever), kick boxing and vets rugby, in between all that somewhere my spleen was burst.”
He was oblivious to the issue until January 3rd when suddenly there was blood everywhere and he couldn’t move. “Getting back from that, then I had a stroke. That was almost another month in ICU. Then I was shot at (he confronted one knife-wielding shop robber but had a gun pulled on him by a second thief). At that time I couldn’t even speak, so I had to get people to help me. 2018 was a hard year but you get through that.”
Reynecke is still unsure why he suffered the stroke that had people at his bedside in Durban saying their goodbyes in the immediate aftermath, the belief being he wouldn’t recover because of the considerable delay between being struck down and getting to hospital for treatment. Raising stroke awareness is now something he is big into.
Ethienne Reynecke can't be STOPPED!
He survived:
? A stroke
? Gunshot to the head
? A ruptured spleenAnd still managed to become a national amateur light heavyweight MMA champion ?? #Legend
All this after a decade long pro rugby career ? pic.twitter.com/oZYDkS2ReP
— Jared Wright (@jaredwright17) March 9, 2020
“I actually had a Zoom with the CEO of the World Stroke Foundation,” he said. “This guy actually had a stroke as well. The thing about a stroke is the awareness is not good enough for stroking. I always ask guys how many people do you know have got aids? They go, nobody. How many people do you know have died from malaria? They go, no-one. But how many people do you know have had a stroke? Actually, a lot.
“People think it’s normally older people who get strokes but it’s a load of young healthy people and there isn’t a lot of awareness about it. For my stroke, it was in between having a lot of stress, not sleeping enough. I have got a few theories about it. I was bitten by a spider and thought it could have been from that. I’ve done other research. I’m somebody who gets warm quite quickly. I sweat a lot, I look like a sad person on a bus in a suit, I sweat very easily.
“One of the papers I have got, people that sweat under the arms, they found that those guys tend to get strokes easier. I thought maybe it was that. Sometimes guys send me things about anti-flam. That is a big reason as well for a lot of strokes, but again you cannot say exactly.
“It could have been from the wrestling or it was too warm… the problem was when it hit me, the stroke, I knew about it but you wouldn’t have thought you had a stroke because you are too young. You never think you have a stroke. Unfortunately for me I went to have to sleep on a bed for five hours, but it was actually a semi-coma. By the time they woke me up I couldn’t speak. My daughter said there’s something wrong with me.
“They [medics] reckon for every minute that you don’t get help in ICU you lose two million neurons. That is why when I got to the ICU the left side of my brain was dead, you could say. They tested but like any stroke you can’t say exactly what it’s from.
“If it’s someone my age they don’t have any history and they test for drugs. It’s not there. Then they test for steroids. It’s not there. They see somebody and think what it could be and it’s not (what they think). I just think it was stress and maybe not living as healthy as you should. You can’t train for as long as I had without a lot of stress. After that my diet has been a lot better… but it is what it is. It happened.”
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The story goes that when he woke up from his coma he tried to get out of the hospital, thinking he had to catch a flight to Cape Town to commentate for SuperSport. The harsh reality, though, was he couldn’t talk and became reliant on his then seven-year-old daughter to finish his sentences when he did eventually find his voice, a humbling situation he is still working through.
“The biggest message is don’t feel sorry for yourself, just get on with it. Nobody worries about you so don’t feel sorry for yourself. For me, there is a lot of adversity, especially with the stroke to go from speaking on the TV as a pundit to having to learn to speak again.
“I had been busy with a (law) case but for a year I couldn’t even speak to him (the client) because I couldn’t read any emails. I had to work through all of those things. It doesn’t help feeling sorry for yourself. If you feel sorry for yourself, you are going to die from being hungry because you have to work. There is no government fund that you can live off or anything, so you have to make a living.”
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— Ethienne Reynecke (@ettasreynecke) May 29, 2020
What else keeps Reynecke so positive? “It’s not in terms of religion that I have been pushing on, it’s something that you have been born with probably, a culture of just ‘get on with it’. What saved my life is that I was able to go and do wrestling again, play rugby again rather than religious.
“I don’t think people realise how important it is to be able to do your fitness and to train. It’s a good thing. If you can’t do it, that is why a lot of people get into depression. The first six to eight months you’re in a very, very, very dark hole because you’re not yourself and it’s hard to explain to people you have kind of started a new life, you’re like a new person. The person that this (stroke) happened to isn’t the same person.
“It was the hardest part of my life, what happened after the stroke. To be honest, at that time I got divorced as well. It’s hard. You don’t really have someone to help you so if you don’t help yourself no one is going to look after you.”
Commentating first @connachtrugby match tonight in @PRO14Official
Good luck @JohnMuldoon8 sportsground looks amazing #SSRUGBY #CONvKIN pic.twitter.com/tQy36C4O5j— Ethienne Reynecke (@ettasreynecke) September 9, 2017
In time, he hopes to teach the principles of wrestling defence to rugby coaches, mentioning that a session he did in Ireland last year is something he would love to replicate in Japan. But the more regular rugby question he gets is when will he be back on TV commentating. It’s something he’d love to do, Reynecke giving thanks for the grateful financial support shown by SuperSport immediatedly following his stroke.
That comeback – if it is to happen – is a long while away yet, however. “In August it will be two years (since the stroke), on the 9th. I’m not there yet. I explain it to people like this when they ask why are you not back on TV, it sounds like you can speak okay. When it comes to two syllable words then it is hard. I’m not as quick as I used to be. I have to hustle to get some words.”
He uses the word ‘freak’ as an illustration. About a year ago he couldn’t think of it but a six-degrees-of-separation type approach sparked by his memory of a song with the phrase ‘seven seas’ had him googling everything from Annie Lennox to Marilyn Manson and on to song called Jesus Freak by another artist. “It’s an example of how I adapt when I can’t think of a word.”
Given his difficulties it begs the question as to why Reynecke risked injury by returning to the fight game, but his perspective is that sport has aided his recovery not cast further doubts over his well-being. “There is a lot of people who ask are you worried about this in terms of your stroke and I tell them to be honest, it [MMA] is just a sport firstly.
“I don’t think people understand the sport. It’s an art. It takes years to become good at, but there is no fear. After what I have had to go through it could be a lot worse,” he said, hopeful the world will eventually reopen fully and he can take part in the MMA Amateur World Championships scheduled for Kazakhstan which he has qualified for.
“The same with other people, they go through adversities. Real life is a lot harder than sport, if you can understand what I’m saying. The last fight I had, you fight as if it is your last one. Not of fear, but you’re just glad you’re able to do this again. Other people who had the stroke that happened to me, they can’t work after it. One side of their body is stopped. I was lucky mine was only my brain.
#sundayschool for the young boys pic.twitter.com/eXVj4A4Yb8
— Ethienne Reynecke (@ettasreynecke) February 23, 2020
“It’s lovely to share this (story), especially if there is any message guys can get out of it. Just always stay humble and don’t feel sorry for yourself. Just get on with it. That is my message. It’s just about getting on with life and getting healthy.
“It’s hard to say when people ask about the future. I just take it day to day because you’re not even sure when you are going to be in life, it could be your last day. Just get the best time out of it.”
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Thanks Nick The loss of players to OS, injury and retirement is certainly not helping the Crusaders. Ditto the coach. IMO Penny is there to hold the fort and cop the flak until new players and a new coach come through,…and that's understood and accepted by Penny and the Crusaders hierarchy. I think though that what is happening with the Crusaders is an indicator of what is happening with the other NZ SRP teams…..and the other SRP teams for that matter. Not enough money. The money has come via the SR competition and it’s not there anymore. It's in France, Japan and England. Unless or until something is done to make SR more SELLABLE to the NZ/Australia Rugby market AND the world rugby market the $s to keep both the very best players and the next rung down won't be there. They will play away from NZ more and more. I think though that NZ will continue to produce the players and the coaches of sufficient strength for NZ to have the capacity to stay at the top. Whether they do stay at the top as an international team will depend upon whether the money flowing to SRP is somehow restored, or NZ teams play in the Japan comp, or NZ opts to pick from anywhere. As a follower of many sports I’d have to say that the organisation and promotion of Super Rugby has been for the last 20 years closest to the worst I’ve ever seen. This hasn't necessarily been caused by NZ, but it’s happened. Perhaps it can be fixed, perhaps not. The Crusaders are I think a symptom of this, not the cause
6 Go to commentsNo way. If you are trying to picture New Zealand rugby with an All Blacks mindset, there have been two factors instrumental to the decline of NZ rugby to date. Those are the horror that the Blues have become and, probably more so, the fixture that the Crusaders became. I don’t think it was healthy to have one team so dominant for so long, both for lack of proper representation of players from outside that environment and on the over reliance on players from within it. If you are another international side, like Ireland for example, sure. You can copy paste something succinct from one level to the next and experience a huge increase in standards, but ultimately you will not be maximizing it, which is what you need to perform to the level the ABs do. Added to that is the apathy that develops in the whole game as a result of one sides dominance. NZ, Super, and Championship rugby should all experience a boom as a result of things balancing out. That said, there is a lot of bad news happening in NZ rugby recently, and I’m not sure the game can be handled well enough here to postpone the always-there feeling of inevitable decline of rugby.
6 Go to commentsNo SA supporter miss Super Rugby - a product that is experiencing significant head wind in ANZ - the competition from rival codes are intense, match attendance figures are at a historical low and the negativity of commentators such as Kirwan and Wilson have accelerated the downward spiral in NZ. After the next RWC in 2027 sponsors will follow Qantas and start leaving in droves.
2 Go to commentsLike others, I am not seeing the connection between this edition of the Crusaders and the All Blacks future prospects under Razor. I think the analysis of the Crusaders attack recently is helpful because Razor and his coaching team used to be able to slot new guys in to their systems and see them succeed. Several of Razor’s coaches are still there so it would be surprising if the current attack and set piece has been overhauled to a great extent - but based on that analysis, it may have been. Whether it is too many new guys due to injuries or retirement or a failure of current Crusaders systems is the main question to be answered imo. It doesn’t seem relevant for the ABs.
6 Go to commentsharry potter is set in stone. he creates stability and finishes well. exactly what schmidt likes. he’s the ben smith of australian rugby. i think it could quite easily be potter toole and kellaway for the foreseeable future.
5 Go to commentsThis is short sighted from Clayton if you ask me, smacks of too much preseason planning and no adaptability. What if DMac is out for a must win match, are they still only going to bring their best first five and playmaker on late in the game? Trusting the game to someone who wasn’t even part of planning (they would have had Trask pinned in as Jacomb preseason). Perhaps if the Crusaders were better they would not have done this, but either way imo you take this opportunity to play a guy you might need starting in a final rather than having their 12th game getting comfortable coming off the bench.
1 Go to commentsThanks Brett.. At last a positive article on the potential of Wallaby candidates, great to read. Schmidt’s record as an international rugby coach speaks for itself, I’m somewhat confident he will turn the Wallaby’s fortunes around …. on the field. It will be up to others to steady the ship off the paddock. But is there a flaw in my optimism? We have known all along that Australia has the players to be very competitive with their international rivals. We know that because everyone keeps telling us. So why the poor results? A question that requires a definitive answer before the turn around can occur. Joe Schmidt signed on for 2 years, time to encompass the Lions tour of 2025. By all accounts he puts family first and that’s fair enough, but I would wager that his 2 year contract will be extended if the next 18 months or so shows the statement “Australia has the players” proves to be correct. The new coach does not have a lot of time to meld together an outfit that will be competitive in the Rugby Championship - it will be interesting to see what happens. It will be interesting to see what happens with Giteau law, the new Wallaby coach has already verbalised that he would to prefer to select from those who play their rugby in Australia. His first test in charge is in July just over 3 months away .. not a long time. I for one wish him well .. heaven knows Australia needs some positive vibes.
21 Go to commentsWhat a load of bollocks. The author has forgotten to mention the fact that the Crusaders have a huge injury toll with top world class players out. Not to mention the fact that they are obviously in a transition period. No this will not spark a slow death for NZ rugby, but it does mean there will be a new Super Rugby champion. Anyone who knows anything about NZ rugby knows that there is some serious talent here, it just isn’t all at the Crusaders.
6 Go to commentsI wouldn’t spend the time on Nawaqanitawase! No point in having him filling in a jersey when he’s committed to leave Union. Give the jersey to a young prospect who will be here in the future.
5 Go to commentsIt was a pleasure to watch those guys playing with such confidence. That trio can all be infuriating for different reasons and I can see why Jones might have decided against them. No way to justify leaving Ikitau out though. Jorgensen and him were both scheduled to return at the same time. Only one of them plays for Randwick and has a dad who is great mates with the national coach though.
53 Go to commentsBrayden Iose and Peter Lakai are very exciting Super Rugby players but are too short and too light to ever be a Test 8 vs South Africa, France, Ireland, and England, Lakai could potentially be a Test player at 7 if he is allowed to focus on 7 for Hurricanes.
7 Go to commentsPencils “Thomas du Toit” into possible 2027 Bok squad.
1 Go to commentsDon’t see why Harrison makes the bench. Jones can play at 10 if needed, and there is a good case for starting her there to begin with if testing combinations. That would leave room for Sing on the bench
1 Go to commentsWhat a load of old bull!
1 Go to commentsOf the rugby I’ve born witness to in my lifetime - 1990 to date - I recognize great players throughout those years. But I have no doubt the game and the players are on average better today. So I doubt going back further is going to prove me wrong. The technical components of the game, set pieces, scrums, kicks, kicks at goal. And in general tactics employed are far more efficient, accurate and polished. Professional athletes that have invested countless hours on being accurate. There is one nation though that may be fairly competitive in any era - and that for me is the all blacks. And New Zealand players in general. NZ produces startling athletes who have fantastic ball skills. And then the odd phenomenon like Brooke. Lomu. Mcaw. Carter. Better than comparing players and teams across eras - I’ve often had this thought - that it would be very interesting to have a version of the game that is closer to its original form. What would the game look like today if the rules were rolled back. Not rules that promote safety obviously - but rules like: - a try being worth 1 point and conversion 2 points. Hence the term “try”. Earning a try at goals. Would we see more attacking play? - no lifting in the lineouts. - rucks and break down laws in general. They looked like wrestling matches in bygone eras. I wonder what a game applying 1995 rules would look like with modern players. It may be a daft exercise, but it would make for an interesting spectacle celebrating “purer” forms of the game that roll back the rules dramatically by a few versions. Would we come to learn that some of the rules/combinations of the rules we see today have actually made the game less attractive? I’d love to see an exhibition match like that.
29 Go to commentsIrish Rugby CEO be texting Andy Farrell “Andy, i found our next Kiwi Irishman”
5 Go to commentsI certainly don’t miss drinking beers at 8am in the morning watching rugby games being played in NZ.
2 Go to commentsThis looks like a damage limitation exercise for Wales, keeping back some of their more effective players for the last 20/25 minutes to try and counter England’s fresh legs so the Red Roses don’t rack up a big score.
1 Go to commentsVery unlikely the Bulls will beat Leinster in Dublin. It would be different in Pretoria.
1 Go to commentsI think it is a dangerous path to go down to ban a player for the same period that a player they injured takes to recover. Players would be afraid to tackle anyone. I once tackled my best friend at school in a practice match and sprained his ankle. I paid for it by having to play fly-half instead of full-back for the rest of that season’s fixtures.
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