'I may have taken refuge in alcohol... it was not the right solution'
Carl Hayman has been speaking about slowly piecing his life back together following the receipt of a four-month suspended prison sentence earlier this year for domestic violence in France.
The former All Blacks prop also lost his job as assistant coach at Top 14 club Pau after allegedly fighting with some players.
Hayman has now taken to mountaineering and he spoke to Midi Olympique, the French bi-weekly newspaper, the day after climbing Mont Blanc as part of his preparation to take on Mount Makalu, the world’s fifth highest peak (8,363 meters) in the Himalayas, to help raise funds for the Samsara Association.
Hayman first addressed his sudden departure in January from Pau, the club he joined in 2016 after finishing up his stellar playing career at Toulon where he won the French title and three European Cups.
“It’s hard for me to give my version of the facts because when I left, I signed a document with a confidentiality clause,” explained Hayman to Midi Olympique.
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“What I can say about my two-and-a-half years there is that I tried to bring my weight to the building in the building of the club with highs and also downs. I recognise that. The last year has been a sporting disaster. In professional rugby, it’s normal for coaches to drink.
“I’m responsible for what happens to me. My family life had become complicated, to say the least. Psychologically, I was not necessarily in the best position to be a good coach. But hey, it’s life and we have to get over it.
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“I may have taken refuge in alcohol to cope with the changes that were taking place in my life. It was not the right solution but I was perhaps fragile. Again, I’m not looking for excuses, I’m the only one responsible.
“When I hung up my boots in Toulon, no longer playing rugby left a big gap in my life. At the beginning, you were happy, you had time for you and your family. You were not on the road anymore every weekend. But after six or eight months, the feelings of the matches and the smell of the locker room were missing.”
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2 Go to commentsThis game was just as painful as the Hurricanes game. It was real fork-in-the-eye stuff.
2 Go to commentsNow if they could just fire the Crusaders ground PA guy who likes to play his dance music and just loves the sound of his own voice the entire game, even when play is going on. And I thought their brass band thing of a few years ago was bad.
5 Go to commentsUnfortunately when you lose by far the two form players this season in Roigard and Aumua, you're left replacing two game changing Tanks with a couple of pea-shooters. Which is also about the speed of TJs pass.
2 Go to commentsBit rich coming from the guy with zero loyalty to anyone or any team, including happily taking a players place in a league world cup squad because well, SBW wanted to play in it and thus an already named player got told he was no longer going. And airing stuff like this, which may or may not be true, doesn't exactly say you're a stand up guy either SBW. Just looking to keep his name in lights as usual.
37 Go to commentsTamati Tua. …the Taniwha NPC midfielder. Ollie Sapsford, Hawkes Bay NPC midfielder…doing well
2 Go to commentsFiji deserve to be in the rugby championship, fans love seeing the Fijian national team play, the Fijian Drua is a wonderful idea but the players can still be stolen to play for NZ and AUS…
1 Go to commentsThe first concern for this afternoon are wheather forecast…
1 Go to commentsWhy cant I watch Rugby games please?
1 Go to commentsBeautiful shot from Finau, end of story. Gutted for Shaun Stevenson though.
4 Go to commentsThe Chiefs definitely didn’t win ugly. They had the superior scrum, a dominant lineout, and their defence was excellent once the Waratahs scored their two tries (thanks to some lucky refereeing calls mind you). They put pressure on the Waratahs lineout throughout the game, and the mind boggles as to why the referee did not award a yellow card or a penalty try against the Waratahs for repeated scrum infringements on their own try line before Narawa’s first try. And the Chiefs were slick with their passing and running angles on attack. It was a dominant performance all round, even with many questionable refereeing decisions.
1 Go to commentsWasnt late. Ref 2 assistants andTMO all saw it so who are you to say it was?
4 Go to commentsAre the Brumbies playing the Blues twice in a row?
4 Go to commentsBig difference from the Saders. Forwards really muscled up and laid a solid platform. Scooter brought some steel and I liked the loosie combination. Newell has been rather disappointing this season but stepped up big time - happy also to see Franks dot down. He should do that more often! Reihana had a good game and there seems to be more flair and invention with him in the saddle. McNicoll plays well from the back and is reliable plus inventive when he joins the line. Keep it up chaps!
5 Go to comments🤦♂️🤣 who cares who’s the best . All I know is the All Blacks have the star coach but have few star players now …
33 Go to commentsJe suis sûr que Farrell est impatient de jouer avec Lopez et Machenaud et d’être entraîné par Collazo… 🤭
1 Go to commentsAn on field red (aka a full red) in SRP must surely carry a bigger suspension than a red card given by the bunker as that carries a 20 minute team punishment. Had Damon Murphy abdicated his responsibility as a ref and issued both Drua players a yellow, which would have been upgraded to a 20 minute red by the bunker, that would have killed Australia and New Zealand’s push for the 20 minute red to be trialled globally from July this year.
11 Go to commentsEver so often you all post a Danny Care story that isn’t the announcement that he has finally re-signed for one more, victory tour season at Quins and I’m just like, “well you fooled me again!” My absolute favorite player ever, we need to make his final year at the Stoop (and Twickers) official already. I know he supposedly snubbed France but I won’t feel better until he signs.
1 Go to commentslate hit what late hit it wasn’t at all late and can clearly see he was committed before the tackle
4 Go to commentsChristian Lio -Willies 2 try perfomance was a standout. As was captain Scott Barrett. Up front was where the boys won it.They are a great team and players. Fantastic Crusaders , you can keep going.
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