From 3 near-death experiences to South African MMA champion in 26 months: The fall and rise of Ethienne Reynecke
Need an inspiring story to pick you up during the depressing lockdown? Look no further than Ethienne Reynecke, the ex-hooker who bounced back from nearly being dead on three occasions in 2018 to become a South African MMA amateur champion last March just a couple of weeks before his 38th birthday.
Reynecke is by no means the full shilling again yet. His speech can trail away when he’s tired after a busy day, his memory finding the exact word he wants to say can also let him down while his damaged hearing isn’t what he would like.
But after a horrible sequence of events where his spleen burst, a stroke caused a blood clot in his brain and then getting shot at in a shop robbery (he was also divorced around that time), he is certainly bouncing back with a vigour that should make people worried about their own particular difficulty feel more positive about life.
It was 2014 when Reynecke jacked in the rugby, his now ex-wife unwilling for him stay on at Pau following a European adventure that also included pitstops at Connacht and Saracens. The forward, who had featured for the Lions and Stormers in Super Rugby, as well as Griffons, Golden Lions, Western Province and Free State Cheetahs in the Currie Cup, then took up various forms of fighting and even toyed with the idea of becoming an MMA pro in 2016.
Ultimately, the universe didn’t have it in its plan for him to do that, yet here he is all these years later, becoming a national amateur lightweight champion despite multiple, harrowing life setbacks. To say he is chuffed would be an understatement. Then again, it has always been in is nature to fight adversity, whatever the odds. Even in the lockdown there has been no idleness, Reynecke launching a range of hand sanitiser to help South Africa more safely get through the Covid crisis that has changed the world.
Forty minutes Reynecke managed with RugbyPass over the phone from Johannesburg the other night, taking his time to tell his crazy story despite communication difficulties exacerbated by the time of day. “I do apologise,” he said at the outset. “The speech isn’t as good in the night. If you spoke to me in the morning it would be clearer. I’m tired as well as I did wrestling training.”
Regardless of 2018’s life-altering escapades, living in South Africa was never going to be a bed of roses as an ex-rugby professional. That status just doesn’t hold the same gravitas for opening doors that it perhaps holds in other countries. “It’s always a battle. Life after pro rugby is hard, it’s not easy,” he explained.
“Even though you might be well-educated – I did a chemistry and biochemistry degree in Johannesburg and a masters in law in London, in South Africa it’s different. In London if you have got an education and have played over ten years of pro rugby you can walk into a good job, but life is different in South Africa. You have to make something out of nothing. It’s like that. You just get on with it, focus on being healthy and try to get on with life.”
His characteristic chutzpah effectively saved his life following the 2018’s triple whammy: cataclysmic near-death experiences he has shrugged off rather than wallow in self-pity. “It’s getting a lot better,” he continued. “In terms of the health that is fine but it’s hard to explain to people the devastating impact that this has taken.
“There is a disability. I had to learn to read, to speak. Communication is everything. My speaking is improving but my hearing is a problem, understanding what people say. But it’s getting better. I started training again, wrestling, MMA, playing rugby in Bermuda. It helps straiten your life.
“2018 was hard. During my rugby career I never stayed a single night in a hospital. Normally if I got an operation you’d be out the same day. In 2018, I started with a month in ICU because my spleen burst. In between going to WWE (the performance centre in Orlando he attended with Todd Clever), kick boxing and vets rugby, in between all that somewhere my spleen was burst.”
He was oblivious to the issue until January 3rd when suddenly there was blood everywhere and he couldn’t move. “Getting back from that, then I had a stroke. That was almost another month in ICU. Then I was shot at (he confronted one knife-wielding shop robber but had a gun pulled on him by a second thief). At that time I couldn’t even speak, so I had to get people to help me. 2018 was a hard year but you get through that.”
Reynecke is still unsure why he suffered the stroke that had people at his bedside in Durban saying their goodbyes in the immediate aftermath, the belief being he wouldn’t recover because of the considerable delay between being struck down and getting to hospital for treatment. Raising stroke awareness is now something he is big into.
Ethienne Reynecke can't be STOPPED!
He survived:
? A stroke
? Gunshot to the head
? A ruptured spleenAnd still managed to become a national amateur light heavyweight MMA champion ?? #Legend
All this after a decade long pro rugby career ? pic.twitter.com/oZYDkS2ReP
— Jared Wright (@jaredwright17) March 9, 2020
“I actually had a Zoom with the CEO of the World Stroke Foundation,” he said. “This guy actually had a stroke as well. The thing about a stroke is the awareness is not good enough for stroking. I always ask guys how many people do you know have got aids? They go, nobody. How many people do you know have died from malaria? They go, no-one. But how many people do you know have had a stroke? Actually, a lot.
“People think it’s normally older people who get strokes but it’s a load of young healthy people and there isn’t a lot of awareness about it. For my stroke, it was in between having a lot of stress, not sleeping enough. I have got a few theories about it. I was bitten by a spider and thought it could have been from that. I’ve done other research. I’m somebody who gets warm quite quickly. I sweat a lot, I look like a sad person on a bus in a suit, I sweat very easily.
“One of the papers I have got, people that sweat under the arms, they found that those guys tend to get strokes easier. I thought maybe it was that. Sometimes guys send me things about anti-flam. That is a big reason as well for a lot of strokes, but again you cannot say exactly.
“It could have been from the wrestling or it was too warm… the problem was when it hit me, the stroke, I knew about it but you wouldn’t have thought you had a stroke because you are too young. You never think you have a stroke. Unfortunately for me I went to have to sleep on a bed for five hours, but it was actually a semi-coma. By the time they woke me up I couldn’t speak. My daughter said there’s something wrong with me.
“They [medics] reckon for every minute that you don’t get help in ICU you lose two million neurons. That is why when I got to the ICU the left side of my brain was dead, you could say. They tested but like any stroke you can’t say exactly what it’s from.
“If it’s someone my age they don’t have any history and they test for drugs. It’s not there. Then they test for steroids. It’s not there. They see somebody and think what it could be and it’s not (what they think). I just think it was stress and maybe not living as healthy as you should. You can’t train for as long as I had without a lot of stress. After that my diet has been a lot better… but it is what it is. It happened.”
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The story goes that when he woke up from his coma he tried to get out of the hospital, thinking he had to catch a flight to Cape Town to commentate for SuperSport. The harsh reality, though, was he couldn’t talk and became reliant on his then seven-year-old daughter to finish his sentences when he did eventually find his voice, a humbling situation he is still working through.
“The biggest message is don’t feel sorry for yourself, just get on with it. Nobody worries about you so don’t feel sorry for yourself. For me, there is a lot of adversity, especially with the stroke to go from speaking on the TV as a pundit to having to learn to speak again.
“I had been busy with a (law) case but for a year I couldn’t even speak to him (the client) because I couldn’t read any emails. I had to work through all of those things. It doesn’t help feeling sorry for yourself. If you feel sorry for yourself, you are going to die from being hungry because you have to work. There is no government fund that you can live off or anything, so you have to make a living.”
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— Ethienne Reynecke (@ettasreynecke) May 29, 2020
What else keeps Reynecke so positive? “It’s not in terms of religion that I have been pushing on, it’s something that you have been born with probably, a culture of just ‘get on with it’. What saved my life is that I was able to go and do wrestling again, play rugby again rather than religious.
“I don’t think people realise how important it is to be able to do your fitness and to train. It’s a good thing. If you can’t do it, that is why a lot of people get into depression. The first six to eight months you’re in a very, very, very dark hole because you’re not yourself and it’s hard to explain to people you have kind of started a new life, you’re like a new person. The person that this (stroke) happened to isn’t the same person.
“It was the hardest part of my life, what happened after the stroke. To be honest, at that time I got divorced as well. It’s hard. You don’t really have someone to help you so if you don’t help yourself no one is going to look after you.”
Commentating first @connachtrugby match tonight in @PRO14Official
Good luck @JohnMuldoon8 sportsground looks amazing #SSRUGBY #CONvKIN pic.twitter.com/tQy36C4O5j— Ethienne Reynecke (@ettasreynecke) September 9, 2017
In time, he hopes to teach the principles of wrestling defence to rugby coaches, mentioning that a session he did in Ireland last year is something he would love to replicate in Japan. But the more regular rugby question he gets is when will he be back on TV commentating. It’s something he’d love to do, Reynecke giving thanks for the grateful financial support shown by SuperSport immediatedly following his stroke.
That comeback – if it is to happen – is a long while away yet, however. “In August it will be two years (since the stroke), on the 9th. I’m not there yet. I explain it to people like this when they ask why are you not back on TV, it sounds like you can speak okay. When it comes to two syllable words then it is hard. I’m not as quick as I used to be. I have to hustle to get some words.”
He uses the word ‘freak’ as an illustration. About a year ago he couldn’t think of it but a six-degrees-of-separation type approach sparked by his memory of a song with the phrase ‘seven seas’ had him googling everything from Annie Lennox to Marilyn Manson and on to song called Jesus Freak by another artist. “It’s an example of how I adapt when I can’t think of a word.”
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Given his difficulties it begs the question as to why Reynecke risked injury by returning to the fight game, but his perspective is that sport has aided his recovery not cast further doubts over his well-being. “There is a lot of people who ask are you worried about this in terms of your stroke and I tell them to be honest, it [MMA] is just a sport firstly.
“I don’t think people understand the sport. It’s an art. It takes years to become good at, but there is no fear. After what I have had to go through it could be a lot worse,” he said, hopeful the world will eventually reopen fully and he can take part in the MMA Amateur World Championships scheduled for Kazakhstan which he has qualified for.
“The same with other people, they go through adversities. Real life is a lot harder than sport, if you can understand what I’m saying. The last fight I had, you fight as if it is your last one. Not of fear, but you’re just glad you’re able to do this again. Other people who had the stroke that happened to me, they can’t work after it. One side of their body is stopped. I was lucky mine was only my brain.
#sundayschool for the young boys pic.twitter.com/eXVj4A4Yb8
— Ethienne Reynecke (@ettasreynecke) February 23, 2020
“It’s lovely to share this (story), especially if there is any message guys can get out of it. Just always stay humble and don’t feel sorry for yourself. Just get on with it. That is my message. It’s just about getting on with life and getting healthy.
“It’s hard to say when people ask about the future. I just take it day to day because you’re not even sure when you are going to be in life, it could be your last day. Just get the best time out of it.”
Comments on RugbyPass
The side is good but lacks experience. International playing bona fides udually trumps super rugby form for good reason. And incumbents are usually stuck with. Codie Taylor should start or come off the bench. B Barrett will start at fullback. Blackadder has not earned the position, Finau has. TJs experience and competitiveness earns him a starting role, Christie or Ratima off the bench
4 Go to commentsPretty good side. Scott Barrett should be the captain. Ethan Blackadder a great choice at blindside. He is going to go from strength to strength having made a couple of starts for the Crusaders. Scott Robertson rates him highly. Perenara could start a no 9.
4 Go to commentsI question and with respect. Was enough done over the last few years to bring through new blood knowing the Whitelocks and co couldn’t last forever. There should have been more done to future proof the team. New squad new coach, he and they weren’t set up well. IMO
6 Go to commentsJacobsen will definitely be in the 23
4 Go to commentsLots of discussion points, Ben, but two glaring follies IMO: 1. Blackadder at 6. Has done nothing so far this season to justify his selection. Did you see him going backwards in contact at the weekend? Simply has not got the physical presence at 6: we need a Scott Barrett or a Finau (or wildcard Ah Kuoi), beasts who are big enough to play lock, like Frizzell. If Barret played at 6, Paddy could be joined at lock by Vai’i or one of the young giants we need to promote, like Darry or Lord (if he ever gets on the field). Blackadder best left to join the queue for 7. 2. Not even a mention for Christie? Ratima gets caught at crucial times at the back of the ruck when he hesitates on the pass. The only way he starts would be if Christie and TJ are injured.
4 Go to commentsWhat a dagg in more ways than one
6 Go to commentsRegroup come back next year but sack some of the coaching team and don't be like the ABs last minute sacking. If Crusaders don't do well ABs don't do well.
5 Go to commentsProctor Definitely inform again this year had a hell of a season last year and this year is looking even better. Still mixed feelings about Ioane tho.
4 Go to commentsDagg is still trying to get enough headlines to make himself relevant enough to get a job. The Crusaders went back to square one at all levels. Shelve this season and nail the next one.
6 Go to commentsHe was in such great form. Sad for him but only a short term injury and it will be great to see him back for the finals.
1 Go to commentsAfter their 5/0 start, I had the Crusaders to finish Top 4 only…they lost the plot in Perth but will reload and back themselves vs 4th placed Rebels…
5 Go to commentsBoth nations missed a great opportunity to book a game that would have had a lot of interest from around the world. I understand these games can’t be organised in 5 minutes but they should have found a way to make it happen. I don’t think Wales are ducking anyone but it’s a bad look haha.
3 Go to commentsIt will be fascinating to see the effect that Jo Yapp has. If they can compete with Canada and give BFs a run for their money that will be progress
1 Go to commentsFollowing his dream and putting in the work. Go well young fella!
3 Go to commentsPerhaps filling Twickenham is one of Mitchell’s KPIs. I doubt whether both September matches will be at Twickenham on consecutive weekends. I would take the BF one to a large provincial stadium so as not to give them the advantage and experience of playing at Twickenham before a large crowd prior to the RWC.
3 Go to commentsvery unfortunate for Kitshoff, but big opportunity potentially for Nché to prove he is genuinely the best loosehead in the world, rather than just a specialist finisher. Presuming that if Kitshoff is out, it will also give Steenekamp a chance to come into the 23? Or are others likely to be ahead of him?
1 Go to commentsA long held question in popular culture asks if art imitates life or does the latter influence the former? Over this 6 nations I can ask the same question of the media influencing the thoughts of its audience or vice versa. Nobody wants to see cricket scores in rugby, as a spectacle it is not sustainable. With so many articles about England’s procession and lack of competition it feeds the epicaricacy of many looking for an opportunity to pounce. England are not the first team to dominate nor does it happen only in rugby, think Federer, Nadal, Red Bull or Mercedes, Manchester Utd, Australia in tests and World Cups. Instead of celebrating the achievements why find reasons to falsify it pointing towards larger playing pool, professional for a longer period or mitigate with the lack of growth in other nations. Can we not enjoy it while it is here and know that it won’t last for ever, others coveting what England have will soon take the crown, ask the aforementioned?
6 Go to commentsShame he won’t turn out for the Netherlands now they’re improving. U20s are Euro champs and in the U20 Trophy this year. The senior sides gets better every year too.
3 Go to commentsWill rugbypass tv be showing these games?
1 Go to commentsWell where do you start, the fact that England have a professional domestic league and Ireland’s is fully amatuer, that they have fully seperated professional squads at Fifteens and Sevens (7’s thinly disguised as GB), and Ireland have fully pro Sevens squad who loan some players back to the Semi-Professional Fifteens squad (moved from amateur for only a year or so) for a few games at 6N & RWC’s. The Women’s games is a shambles, and is at risk of killing itself by pushing for professionalism when the market isn’t really there to support it outside one or two countnries..
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